Depression. It is one of the most used words yet widely misunderstood in its meanings. A layman uses the word depression as a synonym for being sad. Is that it? Just being sad? Most of the people who have suffered from depression or are still suffering from it know that its much more than just being sad for a little while. Depression isn’t just another emotion, but a mental disorder. A person suffering from depression is disturbed to the core.

According to National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) :

Depression (major depressive disorder or clinical depression) is a common but serious mood disorder. It causes severe symptoms that affect how you feel, think, and handle daily activities, such as sleeping, eating, or working. To be diagnosed with depression, the symptoms must be present for at least two weeks.

Depression is like a mental cancer. It eats away your thoughts,personality and happiness. Like cancer, it gradually develops over a period of time and by the time the person realizes it,it’s kind of too late. By too late I don’t mean to say that the person dies or something(although the person is a ghost of what he/she used to be personality wise). By too late I mean that its impossible for the person to get out of this quick sand in which a persons life is disappearing gradually as time passes.

I used the analogy of quick sand for depression. What do you do when you are stuck in a quick sand? How do you get out of it? The thing is, the more you try to get out, the more you sink in. No matter what you do you just can’t seem to get out. The only way to get out of a quick sand is though external help. Someone to pull you out of this miserable mess. Yes its still not easy to escape it, but with constant effort and a good grip you can manage to escape.

The same is the case for depression. You just cant escape from the quick sand of depression by your own. You need a helping hand. A family member, best friend or a partner.  You need their help because that’s the only way you can escape this mental quick sand. No one is saying that its as easy as escaping a quick sand. Getting through depression takes time and effort but that doesn’t mean that it’s impossible to get through.

Image of a depressed person in developing countries:

I live in Pakistan. I love my country. It’s quite nice and people here are good. But being a depressed person in a developing country like Pakistan…it sucks. Here, according to most of the people, again I am not referring to all of Pakistani people, depression is just a simple emotion. Here if you are depressed then there are two possible outcomes in most of the cases:

  • Either your family and friends are understanding, They give you time to get a hold of yourself. They still don’t consider it a mental disorder though because here the only mental disorder most people recognize is psychosis, brain damage through trauma,etc.
  • Or you are born in a family where they don’t believe in this stupid nonsense called depression. “He is just acting, he will get tired of it” “It’s just a phase, it will pass””His friends are a bad company, that’s why he is acting queer with us”. This is what most of the parents, family members and friends think of you when you fall into the bottomless pit of depression.

Other than that Pakistan is quite a chill country. Come visit us. Don’t worry, we don’t go BOOM.(Bad joke eh?)

Depression is a serious long term disorder. The number of individual suffering from depression is increasing day by. The rate has especially spiked in the past 2 decades. If you or any of your friends or family members are suffering from depression, kindly take it seriously for your own sake and theirs.

Not everything can be cured with medicine. Some times talking for hours to people who matter to you helps a lot.

“Having depression is like being trapped in a really bad thunderstorm. You don’t know when it’s going to hit, you never know how long it’s going to last, and when it finally passes, you’re left to survey the damages and pick up the pieces.” — Tiffany Johnson