What is Borderline Personality Disorder aka BPD? Most of the readers might not even have the faintest idea about it. Well as most of you might have guessed by the name, it is a personality disorder…..a very destructive personality disorder depending upon the person who is suffering from it. Some of you might have googled it up. But the thing is that the definition given by google is not sufficient to fully understand Borderline Personality Disorder. Here is what google has to say about BPD:
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental illness that centers on the inability to manage emotions effectively. The disorder occurs in the context of relationships: sometimes all relationships are affected, sometimes only one. It usually begins during adolescence or early adulthood.
Well according to the above quoted definition, a person suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder is a walking talking emotional mess who is incapable of holding on to any kind of relationship. Well it is true to some extent but this definition shouldn’t be applicable on everyone suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder. Because as psychologists the first rule we study about is that all minds are unique. Everyone is unique and has their own way of managing and handling problems or any other kind of stimulus. Even though everyone is unique in this world there are still similarities. Yes a person suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder is kind of an emotional mess but that doesn’t mean that they can’t cope with it or handle it. People suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder do manage to keep a good relationship. They may have mental breakdowns once in a while but that’s only for a small period of time. Other than these small periods of emotional instability the person suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder can be quite jolly and fun to be around. Let me explain this point by first listing the signs and symptoms of people suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder.
- Very intense emotions that come and go frequently
- Episodes of extreme anxiety and depression
- In extreeemely rare cases…self harm
- Impulsive and risky behavior which is sometimes good and sometimes bad for the person hanging around with them
- Extreme and fast attachment, they can make tons of friends pretty fast
- Difficulty controlling urges, sexual or whatever else might they be
- Emotional eating
- An extreme phobia of being alone or being left behind
- Unstable sense of identity. They don’t have identity anchor in their mind. Their personality, likes and habit may start to vary with different peoples they get attached with
Well as you can see there is an upside to having a friend with Borderline Personality Disorder. They only have small periods of instability but on the other hand you have a friend or a bf/gf who is:
- Extremely loyal
- Fun to be around with
- Obsessive attachment(good or bad attribute depending upon person to person)
- changing personality( your habits are his/her habits now)
The point I m trying to prove is that even though Borderline Personality Disorder is a severe mental disorder it can be managed pretty easily if you have loving friends and family. A person suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder might lash out sometimes but that doesn’t mean they meant to lash out. They just have difficulty managing their emotions.
At the end I would like to say is that if you have a friend or some family member or partner and they suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder just show them every day how much you love them( even though they might already know that) and whenever the person lashes out, instead of fighting back with them, hug them back with the same intensity. And if the person who is suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder is reading my article, I would just like to say that whenever you are feeling down, just talk with the person you love the most, because even though you might lash out unintentionally, he/she will never leave you no matter what.